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FOMO
I used to get the worst FOMO. I went to EVERYTHING. If there was nothing going on, I’d create...
Lapse or Relapse?
When you’re not drinking… but then you drink. What do you do next? You have a choice. Is this a...
FOMO
I used to get the worst FOMO. I went to EVERYTHING. If there was nothing going on, I’d create something. It was exhausting! But I never really liked parties, and that’s why I drank so much at them. If you need to drink to enjoy something, do you really enjoy that...
Lapse or Relapse?
When you’re not drinking… but then you drink. What do you do next? You have a choice. Is this a lapse, a chance to reflect on what’s working for you and what’s not? Or are you diving in, full relapse, you’ve drank once so might as well give up on this whole sober...
Are you dependent?
I knew I wanted to take a month off drinking. But not this month. There was that birthday, hen night, wedding, party… There was always SOMETHING. Something that I couldn’t possibly go to without drinking. I wasn’t dependent though. I didn’t drink every day, or at...
Drinking doesn’t have to be the problem
When you tell people you’ve stopped drinking, they sometimes seem surprised. They didn’t know you had a problem. They start asking questions about how much you drank, trying to gauge what this means for their own drinking and whether they have a problem too. But...
Turn it Around
One of my clients was working on improving his health. He’d stopped exercising, his diet was unhealthy, and he was drinking beer in front of the TV every night. He was tired and grumpy at work and not achieving what he wanted to in life. He set himself a goal to only...
Careful, it’s slippy!
If you’re anything like I was, most of your friends are drinkers and most of your socialising involves alcohol. Even when you’re doing something healthy like a run or a spa day, alcohol usually shows up in the end. Trying to stop drinking and still be around all that...
It’s all in your head
Mindset is everything. As Henry Ford would say, whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right. So if you tell yourself that drinking is brilliant, it’s hard to give it up, and it’s boring, then your brain will collect evidence that those things are...
Why I don’t think “One Day at a Time” works
In the “recovery community” you’ll hear the phrase “one day at a time” a lot. And sure, when you’re working towards a big, towering goal that stretches you way outside of your comfort zone, one step or one day at a time makes it feel a whole lot more manageable and...
What will my friends think?
In our culture which normalises alcohol at every occasion: weddings, funerals, the end of a bad day, celebrating a great day, even baby showers, it is a truly courageous and rebellious act to say no and choose not to drink. You worry that you’ll be ostracised by your...
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